6 Striking Characteristics of people who never change

It is no longer news that for many people, change is never an option, even when everything including common sense is screaming and pointing toward the urgent necessity for change. Sometimes, one is forced to get past the usual criticisms and look deep. Are there perhaps some special qualities lacking in others, which those who never change possess above others which inform their habitual hardline posture? Here are 5 striking qualities found in individuals who mostly shun change.

  1. They are extremists. These individuals hold a rather eccentric outlook on life. They are go-getters with this somewhat geeky touch to all things; they seem to never stop when they start and never start when they stop. To them, loyalty to a cause, be it only a pattern of thinking is more important than value judgement. Perhaps, the down side to this attribute is they never seem to see it as an aberration needing balance. As far as they are concerned, you are the one whose head needs examining!
  2. They are chronic procrastinators. The last thing a procrastinator would do is to really commit to doing or being. Like all procrastinators, those who never see any need for change despite the obvious, seem to be motivated by a totally different set of mental laws, which forms the basis of all their actions. It’s funny, but sometimes a procrastinator even publicly declares how much he is aware of his “weakness”, but very often he walks away from it without genuine consideration – no serious plan on how to curb it. A genuine consideration would first and foremost overthrow and overhaul the existing mental patterns so as to pave way for the installation of the new, better ideas.
  3. They are spiritually indolent. When you are spiritually indolent, you are lazy of the mind, soul and spirit. Many procrastinators usually do not notice this, as spiritual indolence is something lethal, often occurring in academically brilliant and sagacious people than you would ordinarily expect. At first it would seem being an intellectual is something of repute, something to be proud about; on the contrary such people are to be pitied spiritually, since they are often hard put to understand things like morality, real beauty and harmony. Spiritually indolent people have walled themselves in through their unrelenting to the exclusive influence and control of their day brain. They have no respect for anything which cannot be immediately proved by exact science, such as the outcomes of intuitions or gut feelings, so when you talk about change, everything you say sounds strange; and you’d better be someone armed with the mental and spiritual facts of any matter before taking on them.
  4. They are so selfish. Yes, it takes a considerable amount of selfishness and stubborn self will to be an unrepentant nay sayer. People who never change often run their lives on auto pilot of self serving ideas, which they pursue relentlessly not just so they will be noticed, but simply because the procedure favours them repeatedly. There is something their survival hinges upon which cannot just be wished away. The trouble though, is bringing them to realise that life is not always about being fixated – living from just one location throughout life, doing one mundane stuff over and over again without getting tired, never changing friends, never changing jobs, never aspiring for improvement, but always being the same nice guy and thus remaining the same way throughout their lives. They thereby miss out on many possibilities for growth and living the larger life.
  5. They have no plans. Let’s call it a plan, but usually we are talking about having a vision for their lives, something they live for. The only thing they live for, is nothing, and because they live for nothing, they are always quick to die for anything that bears the semblance of heroism, all of are vain attempts to stifle the loud lamentations of their languishing souls. They are often busy and sometimes very ambitious, but more often than not, they achieve nothing of substance.
  6. They have a closed mind. This may seem like a repetition, but the closed mindedness of those who shun change is the result of their insupportable selfishness. They do not welcome new ideas,  unless such ideas come directly  from them,  then such an idea must be treated with distrust.

The list is endless, I merely filtered out these five points as outstanding and therefore, easily discernible by many.

The good news? Everyone changes! It probably takes a different set of motivations for everyone, for, what moves me may not exactly interest you. Some are changed by stress, others by fear, most by love. But everything changes with time, when they outlive their lifespan, they change, and that includes man and his character.

I would love to hear from you. Tell me what you feel in the comments section.

Happiness and freedom, Life

A life worth living? 


Lost in the canyons of disillusionment, where the trail runs out and stops against granite barriers that walls us in, we cry “why hast thou forsaken me?” ~Ernest Holmes 🌹🍀

We live in times of great uncertainties. Never before had the human psyche been so overwhelmed by torrents of unprecedented catastrophes, such as we now witness daily. From starvation to extreme poverty, natural disaster, disease, war and cold-blooded genocide. It looks like the world as we use to know it can no longer be the same.

Obviously, something the greater majority of people are yet to grapple with has stepped into the world, and unless we speedily come to terms with it, we know not what will be. Worst case scenario: mankind stands a risk of being entirely wiped out! 

 Already for a long time, all nerves are excessively frayed, there is a feeling of helplessness, utter dejection and a sense of separation from life. Exactly as with a stranger in his own home, man no longer feels welcome in this abode that has nurtured him for so long. Added to this is the not so friendly silence of life, a silence so loud and deafening, as to be totally intimidating! In short, the silence leaves many in doubt as to whether there is a supreme intelligence which governs the universe or not. It appears the only thing earthman is sure of is this silence. 
The immediate effect is the disquiet in the souls of men. Is there really a God? Or is the whole idea of consciousness a grand illusion? To answer this question is same as answering the fundamental question of human existence.

A belief in God or Over-Soul or Mind or Cosmic Intelligence or the Light-Father, is nothing other than implicit confidence in the Wisdom that brought everything about. Let’s take it for granted that only a negligible few among humans can still in this age assert that life, such as we can see and observe around us is the offspring of chaos rather than planned Intelligence. Yet, intelligence is not intelligence for nothing, Intelligence is Divine wisdom – omniscience. Beauty and harmony are its natural attributes. It is perfection. 
Perfection however, is permanence in the strictest consistency, which precludes the possibility of errors. Any attempt to suggest or imply the existence of errors is proof of a lack of understanding, a distancing of oneself from true knowledge.

The greatest thing to know, it seems, is the awareness that Life is Perfect. This is what I refer to as the grandest of all premises! The most solid of all foundational agreements. If we can find a way to agree that life alone is absolute, truly, humanity would experience instant total rebirth! Every other ‘perfect’ reality exists as a molecule or microcosm of this absolute reality. Man can become faultless, yes, but that can only be accommodated within the limits of his own species, he can never on account of his faultlessness become as his Creator. God’s perfection can in no way be compared to the full completion of men!

Thus, we live in a flawless universe, with incorruptible laws maintaining order everywhere.  We have free will, which is the capacity to make free and unhindered decisions. This free will naturally goes with the responsibility to accept the natural outcome of our choices, good or bad. At the beginning, we are free to make only those choices which will create the outcomes or results we want, but having made the choice, we are bound to the outcome, and must experience it, pleasant or not. Right choices produce favourable and good results, wrong choices produce sorrowful outcomes.
Our problem is that we either deliberately make so light of this law of cause and effect, or we deceive ourselves when we say we have no freewill, creating in our imagination instead a God who fits into all our expectations, whether we are right or wrong. But God is not at all to be held responsible for our laziness, incomprehension or woes. His Perfect and Good Will is sufficient for a life of constant happiness. It ought to be our duty to find out well on time what this Will of God is, and adjust accordingly.

The solution to our sense of separation from life does not lie in false reassurances about how amazing or awesome we are, or could be, when in all truth we swim in utter wretchedness, it lies in a humility which accepts the truth as it is. Jingles and catchy phrases soon lose their effect the moment we are through reading or hearing them. 

We cannot heal ourselves by our sick selves. Not any more. The deadly virus has eaten too deep into the soul of mankind that every attempt at self healing would crumble from the outset. 
We urgently need the knowledge of the eternal laws governing this creation. Perhaps, the Creator did make a manual by which his creation should be examined and, understood. 
Life is a gift worth living, the moment we discover who we are and what place we are meant to occupy in its level playing field. Then we must go ahead and fill our place. It is one thing to know that there is a purpose behind your existence, it is another thing to fulfill that purpose. A gift not used has been rejected. We reject life each time when, instead of being fully alive, we lament and complain and play the victim’s game.

We must therefore awake and start asking the right questions. Even in an age of digital information overload, we can gain a lot and transform quickly by being humble seekers. Not until we finally agree that we know next to nothing of that which can be truly useful for us, can we awake.


The Prisoner in Us

Joy, happiness, peace, beauty and order are all contained in the natural path to freedom.

Life for us humans is an unbroken documentary of the choices we make every moment, and as one moment gives way for another, we experience the eternal NOW. By hindsight, we realize our moments can be mapped into recurring seasons. There are seasons of courage, joy, happiness, positivity and productivity, and there are seasons when we lack the courage to undertake even the most ordinary tasks. As we mature inwardly through experiencing, we arrive at the mountain top of permanence, where we become one with all seasons, and we perfect in the art of choosing only that which has the potential to advance us.
The art of living is the art of choosing. Our duty is to interprete the meaning of the lessons inherent in every single experience arising from the choices we make. Every experience has its universal implications on us, nevertheless, it is the definition or interpretation we individually give to it that counts in the shaping of our collective destiny. Every moment, we are being confronted with a mandate to choose, we must decide, we must act! The law of adaptation guides us as with invisible good hands towards ensuring that our choices are those most favourable for survival, else our very existence could be threatened.

We are not always successful in the art of aligning our realities with universal realities, we all faulter. But then almost immediately we notice our error in the ensuing retribution, and we are urged to refrain from making similar choices in the future as may bring us suffering. We keep ourselves prisoner when we refuse to learn fast and understand that the only good in suffering is the awareness that we create it ourselves through wrong choices, yet these wrong choices if they happen a few times are necessary in learning what is right.

Order and harmony, as opposed to chaos is the universal principle which produce beauty. We see beauty in every single expression of the Divine will, why then do many fight so hard to adopt the unnatural position that suffering at any level is natural and necessary? Suffering is not in the least an end, it is only a last resort means employed by nature in teaching us how to align our wishes in the best interest of all.
Some people are fast learners, and so avoid the reproach of recurring suffering upon themselves, a single or a few mistakes in the same experience is enough to strengthen their knowledge or awareness, whereas a great many others take the road of recurring self torture.

It is important then that we receive enlightenment and realise the boundary line beyond which suffering no longer serves any good but must even be labeled as wilful vanity. In this connection, we may now reflect on the value inherent in voluntary martyrdom and all forms of gruesome self denials that leave the body and soul totally brutalized. It is important for us to know that Life never wills for us to suffer, that joy and happiness are the default paths designed for us in the weaving of the natural laws.

Those in the luminous realms of Joyful activity, who never had the need to incarnate in the material world because they were already whole from the very beginning, live in and enjoy this constant happiness as a matter of course. The idea that without suffering, there can be no real joy is therefore only a partial truth. It is only necessary to emphasize that suffering is only to be found in the material fields of creation, where the learning takes place for all incarnate beings not strong enough in the first instance to withstand the pressure of eternal happiness, and must first learn to adapt to it through gentle learning in the material worlds.