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6 Striking Characteristics of people who never change


It is no longer news that for many people, change is never an option, even when everything including common sense is screaming and pointing toward the urgent necessity for change. Sometimes, one is forced to get past the usual criticisms and look deep. Are there perhaps some special qualities lacking in others, which those who never change possess above others which inform their habitual hardline posture? Here are 5 striking qualities found in individuals who mostly shun change.

  1. They are extremists. These individuals hold a rather eccentric outlook on life. They are go-getters with this somewhat geeky touch to all things; they seem to never stop when they start and never start when they stop. To them, loyalty to a cause, be it only a pattern of thinking is more important than value judgement. Perhaps, the down side to this attribute is they never seem to see it as an aberration needing balance. As far as they are concerned, you are the one whose head needs examining!
  2. They are chronic procrastinators. The last thing a procrastinator would do is to really commit to doing or being. Like all procrastinators, those who never see any need for change despite the obvious, seem to be motivated by a totally different set of mental laws, which forms the basis of all their actions. It’s funny, but sometimes a procrastinator even publicly declares how much he is aware of his “weakness”, but very often he walks away from it without genuine consideration – no serious plan on how to curb it. A genuine consideration would first and foremost overthrow and overhaul the existing mental patterns so as to pave way for the installation of the new, better ideas.
  3. They are spiritually indolent. When you are spiritually indolent, you are lazy of the mind, soul and spirit. Many procrastinators usually do not notice this, as spiritual indolence is something lethal, often occurring in academically brilliant and sagacious people than you would ordinarily expect. At first it would seem being an intellectual is something of repute, something to be proud about; on the contrary such people are to be pitied spiritually, since they are often hard put to understand things like morality, real beauty and harmony. Spiritually indolent people have walled themselves in through their unrelenting to the exclusive influence and control of their day brain. They have no respect for anything which cannot be immediately proved by exact science, such as the outcomes of intuitions or gut feelings, so when you talk about change, everything you say sounds strange; and you’d better be someone armed with the mental and spiritual facts of any matter before taking on them.
  4. They are so selfish. Yes, it takes a considerable amount of selfishness and stubborn self will to be an unrepentant nay sayer. People who never change often run their lives on auto pilot of self serving ideas, which they pursue relentlessly not just so they will be noticed, but simply because the procedure favours them repeatedly. There is something their survival hinges upon which cannot just be wished away. The trouble though, is bringing them to realise that life is not always about being fixated – living from just one location throughout life, doing one mundane stuff over and over again without getting tired, never changing friends, never changing jobs, never aspiring for improvement, but always being the same nice guy and thus remaining the same way throughout their lives. They thereby miss out on many possibilities for growth and living the larger life.
  5. They have no plans. Let’s call it a plan, but usually we are talking about having a vision for their lives, something they live for. The only thing they live for, is nothing, and because they live for nothing, they are always quick to die for anything that bears the semblance of heroism, all of are vain attempts to stifle the loud lamentations of their languishing souls. They are often busy and sometimes very ambitious, but more often than not, they achieve nothing of substance.
  6. They have a closed mind. This may seem like a repetition, but the closed mindedness of those who shun change is the result of their insupportable selfishness. They do not welcome new ideas,  unless such ideas come directly  from them,  then such an idea must be treated with distrust.

The list is endless, I merely filtered out these five points as outstanding and therefore, easily discernible by many.

The good news? Everyone changes! It probably takes a different set of motivations for everyone, for, what moves me may not exactly interest you. Some are changed by stress, others by fear, most by love. But everything changes with time, when they outlive their lifespan, they change, and that includes man and his character.

I would love to hear from you. Tell me what you feel in the comments section.

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Why is change so difficult for most people?


Of all concepts, change is the one permanent reality most brutally resisted by human beings!
Change is the one constant we’ve all come to embrace as creatures of intelligence, yet it is also the one most strongly resisted and avoided by the average individual. The last thing an average person would want to do is to change an undesirable attribute or situation in favour of something more worthy, beneficial or productive. But why do we resist change, even when we already admit it as essential to our progress?

1. The greatest culprit is probably spiritual indolence. A habitual laziness of both body and mind that shies away from doing the needful. Here is where procrastination comes in – it is not always that procrastinators do not realise the need or urgency for change, but their habitual deference has become so lethal and incapacitating, that they must be seen as persons in need of great help. They need to be rehabilitated on how to regain ownership of their lost free will.

2. Lack of awareness is another strong factor. There is no way you can expect someone who doesn’t even know he needs change to begin the process of change. With but a few exceptions, the majority of people are not quite different from animals, in their manner of conduct. Most animals exist only to eat, drink and give birth. At the outmost, their bodies can serve as food, and quite a few are used as beasts of burden.

Earthmen however, ought to be different. We are not quite so similar to animals with no particular goals to strive after or dreams to fulfill; we can know, know that we have a mission on this earth, and that our lives have great, beautiful purpose.

Awareness leads to self love and brings with it a high sense of personal responsibility. People get to realise the powers they possess, and that these powers are meant to be channeled to productive use. It is common to see individuals who think they are nothing, and cannot count for any meaningful progress. 

3. Vanity. The craving for importance, the mania for credibility and revenge all lend impetus to great stubbornness. And as we all know, stubbornness is an obstacle against which even the gods themselves fight in vain, because stubbornness is akin to stupidity.

Many there are, who want to know why they should change, and what they stand to benefit in the process. They make it sound as if they are being begged. Are they not aware how even the smallest shift in perspective can become a catalyst for profound epiphanies? Positive change is always a win-win for all. The process may be painful and demanding, yet in the end, the individual emerges a new person, whose consciousness having been expanded, would never remain the same again.

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